Question:
If the husband wants the whole family to worship at one place under one pastor, should a wife leave her church and join her husband’s church?

Answer:
Once a Christian woman marries a Christian man, she must submit to God’s order.  For this situation, Ephesians 5:22-24 applies:

22) Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands, as to the Lord,

23) because the husband is the head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church, and He is Savior of the body.

24) But even as the Church is submitted to Christ, in this way also the wives to their own husbands in everything.

(Literal English Translation)

Notice first, in verse 22, that wives are commanded to submit themselves to their own husbands, not someone else’s husband, such as their pastor. 

Secondly, notice they are to submit to their own husbands “as to the Lord.”

Thirdly, the reason the wife is to submit is given in verse 23, “the husband is head of the wife” just like “Christ is head of the church.”

Finally, in verse 24, “as the church is submitted to Christ, IN THIS WAY also the wives are to be submitted to their own husbands IN EVERYTHING.”

In this text, “in everything” means everything.